Things I Have Learned From Going Natural

59057_497306143633772_510554081_nI just wanted to share a few things I never knew or realized during my natural journey….this isn’t EVERYTHING I learned but its just a few things that come to mind now..

  1. The reason that I used to get relaxers was because I did not know how to maintain my hair in its natural state.
  2. My hair type, 4c…and it has small curls that I love!
  3. I can rock my hair without a relaxer and still look cute.
  5. Going natural has allowed me to embrace more things about myself other than hair.
  6. You have to be have some back bone if you’re going to do the big chop. Even if you wear wigs like me, the people who find out about your hair or finally see it, may not accept it and will show it.
  7. Never take advice from someone that has ONLY gotten relaxers all their life.
  8. Never give into peer pressure. Going natural is a decision..don’t let someone else but yourself influence the change if you decide you no longer want to be natural.
  9. There are thousands..maybe millions of black women who have gone natural and some of them are/were around me.
  10. A lot of black women don’t know the joy of going natural and some just don’t want to.
  11. I never knew how important deep conditioning and moisturizing was….actually I never KNEW what it was until I went on this journey.
  12. The people in your life who do not accept your methods of going natural
  13. Men always complain about weave and not being able to touch your hair but even being natural I STILL don’t want anyones hands in my hair lol



The first time I had heard of going natural was online a couple of years ago…I forgot where exactly I was reading from…I Natural Hairbelieve it was on a forum, a woman was discussing chopping off her hair again and starting over. She mentioned using olive oil for her hair and skin…I have to admit to, when I first read this I didn’t put much thought into it except it was odd.

Fast forward a couple years later, I discovered  the blackhairmedia forum. How? Well I was looking for some good weave lol. Believe it or not, I am like a hair fein…I’ll spend hours on the internet literally reading reviews, watching youtube videos and reading forum discussions about products, etc…it just sparks my interest. So anyway, I spent like a few months just going through blackhairmedia archives and discovering the Chinese vendors to go for good hair..Holly, Kevin…and how american vendors are basically rip offs because they order their hair from the Chinese just to sell it at a higher price. If you watched the movie, Good Hair, then you’ll know what I’m talking about.

So all these months I’m on the forum it never struck me to go to the Natural Hair Care side of the forum until one day someone had mentioned taing care of their hair underneath their wig…so I thought about it, looked at my overly dry hair and began my research on taking care of my hair which led to me learning about natural vs relaxer and my ambition to want to grow long natural hair.

When i think about it now, there have been sooooo many hints throughout life that would have gave me the lift of having natural hair sooner but because of stereotypes and what women/men (not only African American, people of other ethnicities think it too) who think “relaxed hair” is the only way for good hair, imprint into their children and peers mind…it never crossed my mind until a year ago.

I would look at girls of other races and think…wow they’re hair is so beautiful and naturally healthy while I have to get relaxers and deal with my nappy edges. I remember meeting a black girl in my gym class when I first entered High school…we were in the locker room and her hair was wet because we had swimming class. For some reason we got to talking about hair and I mentioned something about her and she responded “This IS my real hair”. I was speechless…never had I seen a girl with the same skin tone as me with long hair that reached her hips!! Now that I think about it, her hair was natural at that. If that wasn’t an obvious sign then I don’t know what was lol.

Another hint I had about the natural world was my aunt! She would always say to my grandmother (who always has her kids at her house) that she doesn’t want her children’s hair relaxed, she wants it to be NATURAL. I remember thinking how dumb it was that she didnt want their hair relaxed. The reason why I thought that was because their always and still does…LOOK A HOT MESS. I mean hair sticking out everywhere..the oldest one has some breakage in her hair and she hardly ever has her hair know how your braids look when you leave them in longer than what your suppose to? Thats how hers looks. And the funny thing about it is…both my grandmother and aunt have a license from hair school. What a waste of education?

Well I better stop before I get off track. So thats how I discovered “going natural” through blackhairmedia.



How did it feel? Relieving…I was so happy. I took control.

I’ve always had long hair past my shoulders but it was relaxed hair and I never took good care of it. Whenever I got a relaxer and the effects of it being straight began to wear off and my new growth came in…I just never liked that process. I actually always used to try to go a few months without a relaxer…I really had no idea what I was attempting to do (meaning I knew nothing about my natural hair or going natural) but I really disliked the process of a relaxer…I felt it wasn’t natural but I never knew what to do about.

My family is full of women and yes, they all relax their hair. NONE of them have long hair. I’ve seen their hair break, I’ve seen them with almost no hair…but all they know is relaxers. The only ladies in my family who have natural hair as of this moment is myself, and my two  trouble making cousins who have not reached the age 13 yet…they’re bad news but that’s another story I will blog about…I’ll explain the dynamics of my family later :)…good story 😀

My main family, mother and sister’s reaction sister didn’t really care she already knew I was experimenting with my hair. She thinks I went “Britney Spears Crazy” with my big chop but I know Britney didnt go crazy..she just wanted that hair gone and when the media continued to nonstop budge in her business she got fed up and did something about it…which the media called crazy and what I perceive as “she had enough”. My mom…she was angry, she knows I have always had long hair and she really doesn’t understand too much except for what she knows which is relaxed hair so for her to see something out of the norm, she didn’t like it and she calls my hair “nappy”. I call it beautiful natural curly hair…I love my hair.

This is how my hair looks now to the upper right. The Before photo is of my hair when I first big chopped it…it was dry still had a lot of relaxed hair and I had combed it out with a wide tooth comb. The after photo is of my hair after I moisturized it. Right now I’m dealing with having high porosity hair so I have not tapped into my “healthy state” of big chop yet and I trimmed off a lot of relaxed hair…some is still in there but I will leave it be until my hair grow a little and I can see it clearly. I’ll be taking more photos week to week of my progress. My hair length is  4 inches at the top and 3 inches on the side.

Right now what I’m focusing on is moisturizing my hair…I’m still iffy on it. It feels brittle but its moist. I have been doing the green house effect on my hair..I found out about it using the blackhairmedia forum. The woman who told about it said you should only do it a maximum of 5 days a week but shoot I feel like I should do it every day of the week. Right now I’m just doing trial and error until I get a grasp on what I am doing. My goal is to grow 1 inch a month and 24 inches within 2 years…this month is the test month so if I grow ANYTHING that will be a surprise to me!