I’ve talked a lot about my experiences with being natural, going natural, etc…but I’ve never talked about exactly why i went natural. So here it is…The reason why I decided to go natural was because the front of my hair was not growing. My hair overall and my edges in the front were dry, frail and breaking with every touch….its a wonder that I wasn’t bald. While the rest of my hair was spiraling down my back…I was too ashamed to even show it because the front of my hair was so short. I didn’t even have a bang and I barely saw my real hair on a good day nor did I ever take a photo of it.
Whats the point of having long hair if you can’t even be proud and show it? So I aspire to have healthy and long hair. I don’t want just a strand or two of my hair to be 24 inches…I want all of it to be even and thick…and I’m prepared and dedicated to get it that way. Patience is the key.
Olive oil is the perfect oil to use to restore and replenish dry hair. Olive oil will give your usually dull and drab hair a healthy dose of shine by making it moisturized and healthy. Olive oil can also help soften your hair, making it more pliable and it can help cure a dandruff problem.
- One of the best advantages of using olive oil for hair is that it helps in preventing as well as curing hair loss. Most people have hair loss because of the presence of a hormone called DTH which causes the hair follicle shaft to decrease. Applying olive oil to hair prevents the production of DTH hormones on the scalp, thus getting rid of the problem of hair loss.
- The presence of antioxidants in olive oil makes it an appropriate hair oil that promotes overall scalp health. The hair damage caused due to excessive use of chemical based hair products can be treated with the help of olive oil, thus giving room for growth of healthy hair.
- Apart from the fact that olive oil is an effective treatment for hair loss, it also acts as a natural conditioner for hair. In other words, applying olive oil on hair makes it shiny and soft.
- The antifungal and antibacterial properties of olive oil is a great way to get rid of problems like dandruff and head lice. Moreover, massaging your hair with a mixture of olive oil and lavender oil is very relaxing and acts as a great stress buster.
How to use olive oil in your regimen:
*As a pre-poo: Apply olive oil to dry or damp hair > cover with a plastic cap> leave on for 15 to 30mins or overnight >follow with your wash day regimen
*As a hot oil treatment/oil rinse: Warm olive oil in a double boiler >apply to hair after you have shampoo’d or co-washed >cover with a plastic cap and leave on for 30mins >rinse with warm water >and follow with the rest of your regimen*
*As a sealer: After applying your water-based moisturizer, apply a little olive oil to the length of your strands and pay special attention to your ends
Olive oil can also be used in your skin care regimen. If you follow the oil cleansing method, where you apply oil to your face as your cleanser. Olive oil is a great option because it is rich in Vitamins A, D, E, and K. These antioxidants help diminish dark spots and heal scars.
Friends/Strangers:“Are you really black??”…”The white girl is blacker than you!”..And most recently..”Your boyfriend must not be black.”
Family members:“She’s anti-social.” Or “She’s always quiet.”
Now surprisingly a lot of this stuff does not come from strangers, some of them have come from friends a lot have come from family members. I choose not to communicate with a lot of my family members because I do not trust them. No one can hold water and I want to be as far away from the drama as I can.
As for friends…outside the internet I have no made a friend since I graduated high school…why? I don’t know I guess its hard for me…its not easy to really find someone that understands me AND cares enough to hang around. If they do then they already have a life they are engaged…it’s fine with me though a lot of times I prefer to be alone…except for at night. I hate sleeping alone.
So back to the title…the reason why I mentioned all of this is because a while ago my dad said to me, “You remind me of Bella from Twilight.” At first I took that as insult but brushed it aside but then I started watching the movies and finding out more about her (minus reading the book)….I find out that I am a hell of a lot like her lol.
Things in common:
Socially awkward to people who want to know me unless they keep throwing themselves at me or I warm up to them. Willing to accept someone. I rather have invested my feelings and deep inner emotions within a relationship rather than vent to friends or family. My partner is the closest person to me and the person I love the most. Have a mom a that over reacts to things and wants to know everything and loves me. Have/had friends that wanted to be around me but I gradually pushed them away for relationship. Graduated. Smart. I have gone completely “crazy” when my boyfriend left me. Will choose love over lust…theres so much more I cn’t think of it right now but you get the drift.
I don’t have a boyfriend/husband.I don’t have a father that tries to understand me. I don’t have a bunch of people willing to accept me even though my decisions are rash and I don’t have two guys chasing after me at once. Never been bitten.
So from this…I am a huge Twilight fan, I think its awesome and yes I am the type of black girl with a body that you would usually see in the DAYUMM BIG BOOTY magazines…but I don’t have the snooty, whorish personality to match it. I am a Virgo though…lady in the street, freak in the bed 🙂
My big chop progress has been going great. Right now I am in the progress of doing my hair in box braids. I started this natural journey back in June and now I am in the big chop stage. So far I have completed my goal of finding a usual moisturizer (Lusters Pink GrowComplex), shampoo (SoftSheen Carson) and deep treatment/conditioner (Softsheen Carson Shea Butter Green Tea Reconstructing Deep Treatment). As my protein treatment I will just be using cream peanut butter…yes the type that you make sandwich with…its cheap and easy to put on.
I have received my hairfinity pills and I start taking them today. I know some people are against that but its my choice and your problem. So far without pills my hair seems as though it has grown. But since I am putting my hair in box braids then I won’t see the progress until I have taken them out which is why I am posting my progress now instead of Dec. 11.
So just a quick zip through my pictures. My first photo is the big chop, I started off with dry hair along with uneven and still some relaxed hair attached. My second photo I trimmed all the relaxed hair and had just moisturized my hair with conditioner and African pride moisturizer (that moisturizer sucks!) and combed it out. In my 3rd photo I had just finished spritzing my hair with water and combed it out with my wide tooth comb.
So that’s my journey so far! Thanks for reading!
I love having my education and pursuing it to become a Social Worker. My education is very important to me…its my drive and hope to go further in the future, financially and mentally. But one thing that pisses me off is taking courses that are “required” of your degree that you really don’t need.
Why it pisses me off? Well let me use my Biology course as an example. Two of my educational fears: taking a physical education class (I don’t like to be competitive, sports was never my thing…I will however workout) and taking any type of science course. The reason why I fear taking science courses is because I don’t grasp it easily. I have to study my butt off, which I don’t have time for or I have to have a really GREAT professor to teach me and it just so happens that I have not only the worst professor but seemingly the dumbest.
*Small Rant But A Point To It*
Now for the professor that I have the class is scheduled at 10am. This jerk arrives to class 15 minutes early then begins class by taking attendance. When I arrive its about 9:58am because I have other classes that I am taking. So when I get there the attendance is already taken and I’ve been marked absent. Thats VERY fair. Then when class begins and he starts to lecture, he presents by slideshows so he goes over a slideshow and stays stuck the same slideshow for about 20 minutes and that includes him talking about some story that connects with his life that has nothing to do with the human brain. Then at the end of the class he says, “Guys we’re behind we really have to speed it up I can’t slow it down for you guys”….really? After you waste our time with your life story every freaking slideshow?? Then he says for people like me that keep failing their test,”you should be studying 4 hours a day.” I am a full-time student taking 18 credits…I don’t even have time to eat!
Don’t even get me started on the syllabus. Usually professors put in their syllabus the schedule for the whole semester including tests…not this jerk, no he leaves tests out of it purposely so that he can switch the date anytime. Like he did a few times where he told the class as a whole the test would be the next day then when we come to class all studied up and ready, he says oh no its going to be next week….just for the simple fact that he promised ONE student after class that he would extend it….seriously? Now don’t get me wrong, he’s a smart guy but his teaching tactic is moronic and dumb. He knows the material so well that he assumes everyone else does and teaches like you already know it.
I swear if I EVER get another professor like him I am going straight to the dean and showing my ass! I am wasting $1k on this course just to feel humiliated and dumb and the course isn’t even over yet I have already signed up to take it online next year.
But anyway, why it pisses me of is because its REQUIRED to take this course. Biology has NOTHING to do with Social Work…nothing at all. Social work is SOCIAL, interacting, helping, planning…why am I paying to waste my time???? So basically, I am being “required” to waste my time on things that don’t even have a ounce to do with my degree, its just “required”….that irritates me to the core and demotivates me to even attempt to pass the course.
I am suppose to graduate next year under the 2+2 program so hopefully it will be different going into my bachelors degree.
I have no clue who this woman is but THIS is how I want my hair to look within two years. If I moisturize and eat right..I think I can achieve this and if not then close to it. THIS IS MY GOAL.